Yet, here I sit, judging myself for this lump in my throat, wondering how it is possible that I can feel disappointed after ending something that never really began.
It’s actually the more respectful thing to do.”I closed by wishing the dude well and inevitably got a quick response (ah, so he in a full-body cast or a bubble-boy situation!“I’m judging by your radio silence that you don’t want to continue hanging out,” it read.“That's fine, but I wish you would've forgone the slow fade and just told me, especially after a couple of months/sleeping together.It’s an old platitude, but it’s true: Breaking up is hard to do. Breaking up with someone you aren’t even really dating, technically. Particularly if you want to end things–after all, breaking up is, by most people’s definition, the act of ending a relationship.In today’s weird, disjointed, dating/hookup/whatever culture, it’s increasingly common to find yourself in some kind of nebulous non-relationship, whether it’s a friends with benefits situation or a “just hooking up and we don’t want to talk about what’s really happening” kind of deal. How can you break up with someone if you aren’t even officially dating them?Plus, in my own personal experience, I've often found that ghosting makes the breakup process longer.