For those of you who just landed in 2012 completely unprepared, here is the concept of “FWB,” as the text message generation calls it: A non-committed, friendly and sexual relationship between two consenting adults who aren’t done looking for the right person romantically or who aren’t ready to commit.Although critics have called this anything from an “utopist idea” to “an easy way for men to get what they want without having to pay for it,” it turns out that the FWB method isn’t a bad way to begin a long-term relationship.They should be someone you're physically attracted to, who is nice to you, and who makes you feel like you're in a safe space, but, for one reason or another, isn't someone you could see yourself dating monogamously.And if they are someone you consider to be a friend, just be aware that this can be a bit harder to navigate. Make sure you both understand that this is only meant to be physical and casual to avoid hurt feelings later on.
Enter the era of friends with benefits, the new form of dating.
You think he’s cute, he’s not seeing anyone and neither are you and then BAM! If she’s fallen for the guy, yet he’s stated over and over again that they’re “just kickin’ it” or that he’s not ready for a relationship, chances are you will never go from the FWB situation to full girlfriend status. Sure, this may happen in RARE cases, especially if he has intimacy issues or commitment phobia – in which case I advise you to let it go and heal your broken heart.
But if you feel that the chemistry between you suggests that there might be a chance at real love, here are some things you can do to test the waters to see if you can go from FWB to wifey.
Plus, you can't get mad at someone for being upfront about their intentions and then not falling for you the way you expected them to.
You're not robots, and the world won't end if you send your FWB a "happy birthday" text or ask them to drinks before going back to your place.
Falling in love with your friend with benefits (FWB) is like working full-time as an unpaid intern at a company you're crazy about with no guarantee of a job at the end of it all.