I have a confession to make: I am a huge romantic comedy junkie.
Having watched almost every Hollywood romantic comedy produced after 1995, a huge part of me used to wish that my life would somehow pan out the same way as these lead female characters.
I feel that because we have been in this relationship which is abhorred by Allah, he will never marry me because he has lost respect for me. Allaah has also forbidden this, meaning marrying her so long as she is in that situation…’” Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Made lawful to you this day are al-tayyibaat [all kinds of halaal (lawful) foods…].
The food of the People of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them.
Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way’ ().
However, I couldn’t find any specific verses about dating and finding a life partner.
Now my question is "what makes a pre-marriage relationship halal?
" How d'u go about fully knowing your intended without 'courting' them, which is seen as haram* Is there a stated or likely duration between you meeting someone you want to marry and the time you tie the knot (i.e like a courtship period)? ) for a muslimah to search for a marriage partner; is it even allowed? Jazakumullah When i say pre marital affairs, i mean boyfriend-girlfriend affair.. In Surah maidah, Allah says (rough translation): Today all good things have been made lawful for you.
And whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the other Articles of Faith, the fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers.” [al-Maa’idah 5:5] Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Muhsineen ghayr musaafiheen wa laa muttakhidhi akhdaan (‘desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends’).(The one with many lovers or the one with just one lover) are both the same.For this reason Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (may Allaah have mercy on him) said that it is not right to marry a promiscuous woman unless she has repented, or to arrange a marriage of such a woman to a chaste man, so long as she is still conducting herself in this manner.I am deeply in love with a Muslim man and want to marry him. Wed them with the permission of their own folk and give them their mahr (dowry) according to what is reasonable; they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boyfriends…” [al-Nisaa’ ] In his commentary on this aayah, Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Muhsanaat [translated as “chaste”] means that they should be pure, not indulging in zinaa (unlawful sexual conduct), hence they are described as not being musaafihaat, which means promiscuous women who do not refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them.I know that Allah forbids girlfriend-boyfriend relationships, and feel very sorry in my heart for our relationship. Regarding the phrase wa laa muttakhidhaati akhdaan (‘nor taking boyfriends’), Ibn ‘Abbaas said: ‘al-musaafihaat means those who are known to commit zinaa, meaning those who will not refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them.’ Ibn ‘Abbaas also said: ‘muttakhidhaati akhdaan means lovers.’ A similar interpretation was narrated from Abu Hurayrah, Mujaahid, al-Sha’bi, al-Dahhaak, ‘Ataa’ al-Khurasaani, Yahyaa ibn Abi Katheer, Muqaatil ibn Hayyaan and al-Saddi. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: ‘It means a (male) friend.’ Al-Dahhaak also said: ‘wa laa muttakhidhaati akhdaan also means a woman who has just one boyfriend or lover with whom she is happy.Finally, we would have a climactic moment at a beautiful park, in front of a famous landmark, or the first place we met, and we would share a fireworks-inducing kiss (with real fireworks behind us) right before the credits began to roll. While my friends were ‘going steady’ then breaking up, I’d sit on the sidelines and silently disapprove.