They fear they aren’t interesting and will bore their date, hence make a fool of themselves. But let me tell you something: it’s just thoughts, and your thoughts aren’t facts.
The fear is real, I get that, I’ve felt it many times!
By encouraging people to tell stories about themselves, you not only learn about their history but also about them from the way they talk about their lives.
These questions are designed to spark the imagination of the person and drift off into speculation.
I may email again, saying, “If you want to know anything just ask”, etc. It’s that you probably haven’t given her a compelling reason to be. “So if a man can make you into a more engaging person by writing a witty first email, wouldn’t it make sense that you could turn a man into a more engaging person by doing the same?
I know, what an odd and foreign concept…Dating apps have become the norm among Gen-Yers.
You could also play a game where, for every point scored, the person who earned the point gets to ask a question.
Just be sure to choose a game you're sure to win or tie, or you may find yourself doing all the talking.
People, on the whole, love talking about themselves.
So, to take the pressure off, arm yourself with some great questions to ask your date.
If you want to see your relationship grow, you'll have to ask questions - lots of them. Learning about someone's past can be tricky; you don't want to seem like you're giving them the third degree, but at the same time you want to know more about them.