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Invalidation is so common in our society that you’ve probably inadvertently done it to others – and to yourself.Emotional invalidation wears you down, and in the long term has an extremely negative effect on self-confidence and well-being.Validation is a way of communicating that the relationship is important and solid even when you disagree on issues.Validation is the recognition and acceptance of another person's thoughts,feelings, sensations, and behaviors as understandable. Holding someone's hand when they are having a painful medical treatment, listening with your whole mind and doing nothing but listening to a child describe their day in first grade, and going to a friend's house at midnight to sit with her while she cries because a supposed friend told lies about her are all examples of being present.DAVID YANDA | OPINION COLUMNIST Emotional invalidation: an infamous and infuriating junction between the misunderstood and judgmental where identity-erosion inadvertently emerges as an aversive guest.

This is true for me – growing up, I was a sensitive kid and I cried easily.

An explanation of oversights or contradictions is imperative to preserve any respectable sense of humanity.

However, bringing oversights or contradictions to light will often at times be returned with resentment.

Obnoxious as it is unreasonable, rejecting an emotional response as acceptable will almost always leave the recipient feeling gutted and reeling in resentment.

Any given action by any given person will always flush out as rational at the present time it was conducted.

He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. She would have me read to her while she made dinner. I believe in being mindful of our feelings, and expressing them unless it would be harmful to someone else in which case, find a safe outlet – write, paint, maybe vent to a listening friend.

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